Getting Unstuck
Four things that helped me make clearer decisions in work and life
Over the past few months, I’ve found myself in a strange place.
Not overwhelmed. Not burned out.
Just… unclear.
I’ve questioned whether The Recruitment Room membership is still the right format.
I’ve wondered if I should stay in the football industry.
I’ve even debated whether to take on more freelance work, like ghostwriting, or keep things focused.
Each of these questions has sat quietly in the background, not loud enough to force action, but constant enough to create doubt.
And when you don’t have clarity, that doubt spreads fast.
You overthink. You stall. You try to do everything or nothing.
I’ve seen the same thing play out in others too.
People trying to break into football.
They want to work in the game, but don’t know where to start.
What roles are out there?
Which skills matter most?
How do you build a network or get noticed?
What’s the actual first step?
Because they don’t know, they hesitate.
And that hesitation turns into months, sometimes years, of inaction.
It’s frustrating to watch, because I know it doesn’t have to be that way.
And lately, I’ve realised the same is true for me too.
I’m approaching 30, and time feels different now.
It moves faster.
It feels more expensive.
And I’ve become more aware of how easily it slips away when you don’t know what direction you’re going in.
So I’ve been asking myself a better question:
How do you get clarity when you’re stuck, unsure, or pulled in too many directions?
What’s helped me
Here’s what I’ve been doing to get clearer and move forward without feeling like I need everything figured out.
1. Start with the why
If I don’t know why I want to do something, I pause.
Not a generic why. Not what sounds good on paper. A reason that feels honest.
Sometimes it’s about money. Sometimes it’s creative challenge. Sometimes it’s just about proving something to myself.
But if I can’t name the reason, I won’t trust the decision.
2. Look at people one or two steps ahead
Clarity doesn’t always come from staring at a blank page.
It often comes from seeing what others are doing and spotting something that clicks.
A style of work. A path I hadn’t considered.
Sometimes all I need is to see what resonates, then make it my own.
3. Set a direction, not a fixed outcome
I’ve stopped thinking in terms of "end goals" and started thinking in terms of lighthouses.
Something to move towards. Something that gives structure to the next few steps.
It might change, and that’s fine. But without a direction, everything feels like a maybe.
4. Create space to process
When I feel foggy, I write. Not perfectly. Just honestly.
Morning pages. Bullet journaling. Notes on my phone.
It’s less about reflection, more about unloading the noise.
Writing is a tool for thinking.
Then I talk to people.
Friends building similar things. A few people in the football space.
Even my partner, who doesn’t care about football or online business, helps me see things I’d otherwise miss.
And when something clearly isn’t helping, I cut it. No guilt.
A closing thought
Clarity isn’t something you stumble into.
It’s something you create space for.
The questions don’t stop. But your response changes.
And in the long run, that’s what gives you momentum and allows you progress.